People often have difficulty getting their biologically female partners off. Although it's become a running joke, there’s nothing funny about having unsatisfying sex. Consider us the Avengers of the female orgasm.
We’re here to teach you everything you need to know about the G-spot and why learning how to find it matters in the quest for consistent orgasms.
What Is the G-Spot?
The G-spot is the easier-to-pronounce nickname for the Gräfenberg spot, named after the researcher who first suggested it existed, Ernst Gräfenberg (what a legacy to leave!).
The G-spot is unique to those with female genitals, although it is sometimes referred to as the “female prostate” due to its orgasmic potential. It’s located just inside the vagina — don’t worry, we’ll teach you how to properly find it.
An orgasm from G-spot stimulation can feel different from a clitoral orgasm. Many people describe it as a deeper, fuller, longer-lasting vaginal orgasm. Some feel like they need to pee, which makes sense because the tissue is close to the urethra.
As we’ll dig into later, the existence of the G-spot and the G-spot orgasm is still controversial. A recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine couldn’t find any physical proof that the G-spot exists. However, cisgender women may say otherwise, as it’s far less of a myth than scientists may think.
How To Find the G-Spot
Finding the G-spot requires self-exploration, so lock your bedroom door, break out your vibrator and some lube, and get ready for the journey! Don’t forget to wash your hands and make sure your fingernails are trimmed, so you don’t hurt yourself.
Pro tip: It’s easier to find your G-spot when aroused, as it's made of erectile tissue in the urethral sponge that engorges blood.
Start with clitoral stimulation (or whatever type of masturbation turns you on) and get nice and wet before diving in fingers-first.
Once you’re ready, lay on your back and insert two lubed-up fingers into your vagina. Try to maneuver your hand so that the palm of your hand is facing up. You’re aiming for about two inches deep.
Then, curl your fingers toward the front wall of the vagina in a “come hither” motion. The G-spot should feel like a soft, spongy, bumpy piece of tissue different from the rest of the vagina. Don't give up if you can’t find the G-spot right away (or even the first few times)!
Remember, sexual exploration is supposed to be fun, so there’s no pressure. You know the saying — if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again!
Best Sex Positions To Stimulate the G-Spot
After successfully finding your own G-spot, it’s time to put that information to work. The G-spot responds to the same type of stimulation as the clitoris, so vary the pressure, rhythm, and pattern to find what works for you.
Check out three of our favorite sex positions to help your partner hit your G-spot just right.
For people with a vagina, being on top can be one of the most empowering sex positions you can do. It allows you to take control of your pleasure and move your body in any way that stimulates you the most. Grind, bounce, and move around until you find the perfect spot.
To increase your chances of hitting the G-spot, lean back and have your partner bend their knees so you can use them to stabilize yourself as needed. (Plus, your partner is likely to enjoy the view!)
Doggy style may have a reputation for not being super personal, but it’s one of the positions almost guaranteed to hit the G-spot. It allows your partner to get deep, and the pressure on your erogenous zones is just *chef’s kiss.*
Occasionally rock side-to-side instead of having your partner slide in and out. Lean down on your forearms or press your chest onto the bed if you have the flexibility.
Closed Missionary Position
The missionary position doesn’t always have to be plain vanilla, especially not if you make this minor change. Lay on your back with your legs opened up to your partner. Then, close your legs, reach up, and bring them up to your chest.
Allow your partner to straddle your legs and increase the rub, friction, and sensation. Remember, your G-spot isn’t that deep inside of you, so you don’t need deep penetration to hit it. Use plenty of lube, as this position may cause friction.
What Research Tells Us
Unfortunately, the studies surrounding the G-spot have been less than clear. Research on human sexuality (and female sexuality in particular) is often underfunded because, although we’re living in modern times, there is still a lot of stigma around people who own their sexuality.
The only thing that’s been proven is that researchers agree to disagree. Most of them agree that the G-spot exists but disagree on its size, location, and actual job.
One exciting piece of research published in the Natural Research Journal found that the female sex organs are far more interconnected than initially thought. Dubbed the CUV, or clitourethrovaginal complex, the science shows that stimulating the intersection of the clitoris, urethra, and vagina may lead to strong sexual arousal and orgasm.
This finding goes along with the unicorn of female sexuality — “squirting” (or female ejaculation). The evidence for the physical existence of the G-spot (and its link to the Skene’s glands, which create some of the urethral secretions released when you cum this way) has been inclusive.
But, researchers believe that there is a spot of more erotic sensitivity inside the vagina, on the anterior vaginal wall — the infamous G-spot.
Discover What Works for You
Our bodies don’t come with a handbook. Through experimentation by yourself and with a consenting partner, discovering what works can help you gain more self-confidence and sexual empowerment.
Try mixing things up a bit — introduce different positions into your sex life or try a new sex toy. Rub Awaken Arousal Oil onto your vulva for enhanced pleasure and sensation, and pay attention to your sexual response. You might even learn something new about yourself.
Keep open communication with your partner so that you feel comfortable talking about your likes, dislikes, and kinks. Remember, consent is essential and good communication is attractive.
Sexual pleasure is individual — what works for one person may not do anything for another. While the anatomic existence of the G-spot is a point of contention (and has been included in multiple research points), exploring your body to find out what works for you can help improve your sexual health and wellness in many ways.
We’re here for all of your needs as you explore your sexuality, and we wish you many orgasms in the future.
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