Sex should always be fun. If you’ve lost some of the spark and excitement, we’ve got ways for you to rekindle that flame and get back to having sex like you’re still newlyweds.
You don’t have to settle for boring sex; take charge and revamp your love life. We promise you won’t regret it.
Is Your Sex Life Starting To Feel Routine?
As good as sex feels, it can definitely get routine, especially if you’ve been with your partner for over a few years. If you find yourself just going through the motions, take a step back and see if you can figure out the root.
There are plenty of benefits to having a healthy, active sex life with your partner, and you can still have great sex even if you’ve been together for decades.
Spice Things Up in the Bedroom
Spicing things up in the bedroom to create more exciting sex can mean whatever you want. For some people, that means bringing sex toys like dildos and vibrators into the bedroom or trying new sex positions.
For others, it can be as simple as finding different places to have sex. Regardless, an excellent place to start is with an open, honest conversation with your partner. Once you have a better idea of their sexual fantasies or bucket list, you can begin to reinvigorate your intimacy.
Try New Positions
One of the best sex tips we can offer to have more fun sex with your partner is to try new positions. We’ve got a few to start with, but don’t be afraid to get as wild and kinky as you want. You gotta try everything at least once to know if you like it, right? Combine it with some dirty talk, and let the sex games begin!
Wheelbarrow
Check out the wheelbarrow position if you like doggy style but tend to do it a lot and want to mix it up a bit. It takes a little more work and core strength than doggy style, but we promise it's worth it (plus, you can skip your trip to the gym).
The partner receiving the penetration starts on their stomach, with the other partner standing between their legs. The receiving partner will press their torso up using their arms (think: plank position) as the giving partner holds their legs open and penetrates. It’s fun and excellent for deep penetration, whether you use it for vaginal or anal sex.
X-Factor
Although missionary gets a bad rap for being boring, the X-factor position offers a way to take it up a notch. Start in a traditional missionary position, with the penetrating partner on top.
Once inside, have them twist their body to the side, so they’re lying across you. The position changes the vaginal and clitoral stimulation, allowing you to explore some of their erogenous zones more easily.
Leapfrog
The leapfrog is another variation on doggy style, with much less arm strength required. Essentially, instead of the receiver being on all fours, they’ll rest their chest, head, and arms on the bed (or a pillow).
The result is super deep penetration without all that extra work. Plus, with your hips up, you or your partner can stimulate the clitoris. It’s truly a win-win.
Golden Arch
No, this has nothing to do with fast food! The golden arch position allows you a full view of your partner’s body while you do the deed and more control over the depth and angle of penetration.
Have the partner with the penis (or strap-on) sit up with their legs straight, then sit on top. Bend your legs and lean back, placing your legs up by their arms.
Karezza
Karezza is more than just a single position; it’s a different way of experiencing sex that focuses on intimacy and touching instead of orgasms. It’s slow and connected sex without any specific timeframe or goal other than having fun sex with a strong emotional connection.
Find the G-Spot or the P-Spot
Everyone has a special spot that can create even more mind-blowing orgasms, but you must be willing to look for it. Going on a sexy journey with your partner to find your G-spot or P-spot is fun and satisfying and can bring you closer together. Just use plenty of lube, and combine it with an arousal oil for even more pleasure!!
Role Play Your Fantasies
Sometimes, you need a little role-play to spice things up. We’ve got a few suggestions for how you can make your sex life just a little more interesting. Let’s get into the fantasy of it all.
Make a Home Movie
Put on your best lingerie and pull out your smartphone — making a home movie can be the ultimate in fun sex! Make sure you have your partner’s consent and store your video safely (we recommend a special folder labeled something else). You can even use it down the line as a form of sexting to get them turned on.
Have Sex While Blindfolded
If you haven’t tried a little light BDSM before (and we’re not talking about the problematic vibe of fifty shades), what better time than now to give it a shot? If this is your first time, start by introducing a blindfold to the bedroom.
When you take away one of your senses, the others are even more heightened (Awaken Arousal Oil can heighten your sensation and pleasure one step further, too). You can also move into other forms of power play, like spanking or being tied up.
Have a Quickie Between Important Meetings
While foreplay is always a good idea, skipping it every once in a while for a steamy quickie can lead to even more fun sex. This is especially exciting if you both work from home and have a little time to spare between important meetings. See if you can beat your best time!
Masturbating together between meetings if you aren’t working from the same home is also hot. Add that to your sex ideas list and see how you like it.
Have Sex in New Places
If you’re like most people, sex tends to happen in the bedroom. Don’t get us wrong; we love a comfy bed and the privacy the bedroom provides. But having sex in new places can lead to more fun sex, even if it happens every once in a while.
The Kitchen Floor
Spontaneous sex is fun if you allow yourself to let go and enjoy the moment. The next time you’re in the kitchen feeling frisky, embrace the feeling and take it to the floor. You can even get out the ice cubes and have a real-life movie moment. It’s super hot. Just make sure the kids aren’t home!
On a Boat
You haven’t lived until you’ve had sex on a boat, with the water rocking just as much as your body is. Rent a boat for your next date night and take your sexy times on the road (or the lake, so to speak). Be careful if you try this in a canoe or smaller boat; it’s easy to capsize, so make sure everyone can swim!
In the Backyard
If you’re tight on time or can’t get away for that weekend camping trip you’ve been planning, pitch a tent in the backyard (pun intended). Sex under the stars can be magical, and there’s no need to stray too far from home. Plus, being inside a tent should keep the neighbors from getting too peeksy.
Conclusion
Trying out new positions or places to have sex can reinvigorate your sex life, no matter how long you’ve been together. You deserve to have fun sex with your partner, and making a few small changes to keep it fresh and interesting may be just what you need to spark that flame back up. Follow us at Foria for even more tips and tricks for keeping your sex life fresh and the orgasms flowing.
Sources:
The Benefits of a Healthy Sex Life | Center for Women's Health | OHSU
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