The joke has always been that straight, cisgender men couldn’t find the female G-spot even if they had a map. But recently, some researchers have questioned the existence of the G-spot, leading to a lot of controversy among sexual health connoisseurs.
Let’s separate the fact from the fiction and discuss the female G-spot, how you can find it, and what it can do for you.
What Is the G-Spot?
When we talk about the female G-spot, we’re referring to a section of genital anatomy historically known as the Gräfenberg spot. If that sounds random, it’s named after Dr. Ernst Grӓfenberg, a German gynecologist who also created the precursor to the modern IUD (known as Gräfenberg’s Ring).
The female G-spot is considered part of the much more extensive clitoral network (in fact, only a tiny portion of the clitoris is visible to the naked eye). Essentially, the G-spot is an erogenous zone at the intersection of the clitoris, urethra, and vagina — also referred to as the CUV (clitourethrovaginal complex) or the “female prostate.”
That’s why G-spot stimulation can lead to female ejaculation, as the secretions released with “squirting” come from the Skene’s glands. Human sexuality is incredible, right?
So why all the controversy? As an article by well-known sexual researchers published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine called it, the female G-spot is like a gynecological UFO. Even attempts to find it through cadaver dissection have come up empty-handed, giving it a mythological quality.
How To Find the G-Spot
“Inside of the vagina” is pretty vague, we know. That’s part of the controversy surrounding this area of the body — it can be hard to find, and you can’t count on just being able to look for it visually.
Even finding your own G-spot requires a little self-exploration (or, if you prefer, some shared vulnerability with your partner).
A few things first, though. First, don’t let any fingers (yours or otherwise) into your vagina without ensuring all the fingernails are trimmed and clean.
Second, lubrication is vital. To keep everything comfortable while you explore, use plenty of supportive, long-lasting lube like our Intimacy Sex Oil.
All prepped and ready to go exploring?
You’re going to insert your fingers into the vagina about two inches (for reference, this is about the length of a school eraser, or just above the halfway point of most people’s index fingers). You’ll want your palm to be facing the front of your body so that, when you curl your fingers in a “come here” motion, they’re curling toward your belly button.
What you’re feeling for is a small area on the anterior vaginal wall (the front wall of the vagina) that feels different in texture from the rest. Because it is essentially erectile tissue, it’ll feel a bit spongy.
The female G-spot is much easier to find when aroused, so keep that in mind when you’re looking for it.
If you’re having trouble, take a break to touch yourself more (or try an arousal oil on the clitoris and vulva to heighten the sensation even further).
Myths About the G-Spot
Where the female G-spot is may be hotly debated, but the idea of it isn’t just a theoretical unicorn. However, some myths about the G-spot refuse to go away, and we think it’s important to address them directly. You gotta know what you’re working with, after all.
Myth: There Are Multiple G-Spots
We hate to break it to you, but there isn’t any truth to the idea of multiple G-spots, as amazing as that would be. There are plenty of erogenous zones in the body, and touching certain areas can definitely turn you on and get you off, but that doesn’t mean they’re “G-spots.”
Myth: G-Spot Orgasms Are Just the Same As Any Other Orgasms
Listen, we can totally see how this myth continues to make its way around. If you’ve never experienced a G-spot orgasm before, it would stand to reason that it would be just like any other orgasm. You don’t know what you don’t know, after all.
But the intersection of different nerve bundles that makes up the female G-spot creates a unique orgasmic sensation. See for yourself. We dare you.
Myth: The G-Spot Is Actually an Organ
This one is an interesting myth, and we’re not exactly sure where it came from. But the female G-spot is not an organ—it is an intersection of nerves and glands.
Myth: G-Spot Orgasms Are the Best Types of Orgasms To Experience
The best types of orgasms to experience are the orgasms that you have. Each person’s likes and dislikes are unique, so we would never presume to tell anyone what the “best” one was. That’s up to you to decide — but we strongly urge you to try as many as possible (for science, of course).
Between clitoral orgasms, vaginal orgasms, blended orgasms, or any other type of orgasms you experience, they all have their selling points.
What Are the Best Sex Positions To Stimulate the G Spot?
After exploring and finding your own G-spot, why not take that info and use it in bed with your partner? A few positions are more likely to stimulate the G-spot, but feel free to experiment and find what works best for your body!
If you like it deep, doggy style is a perfect position. It’s also super customizable, meaning you can position yourself however you need to for female G-spot stimulation. Try tipping your hips up and putting your chest on the bed, and have your partner penetrate you from a slightly higher angle (whether with a penis or a sex toy).
Closed Missionary Position
The missionary position gets a bad rap, but closing your legs when you’re doing it can be an excellent female G-spot stimulator. Instead of wrapping your legs around your partner, keep them together and pull your knees to your chest.
Cowgirl, where the person being penetrated is on top of their partner, is premium clitoral stimulation material. It gives you more control over your sexual pleasure, as you can grind, bounce, and slide your way to sexual arousal. You can also stimulate your G-spot this way, controlling the angle, depth, and rhythm of the ride.
Discover What Works for You
We could write a million words about anatomic sexual function and what works on paper, but does that mean it’s a paint-by-numbers situation? Absolutely not. Everything we’ve discussed is anecdotal evidence, just like most sexual response discussions, and you can try it yourself to find out if and how it will work for you.
We’re huge fans of self-exploration of all varieties, and masturbation is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It’s about far more than just the female orgasm; it’s about reminding yourself you deserve pleasure as much as anyone else.
Break out a vibrator or dildo (and plenty of lube), and treat yourself. Quality sexual wellness is essential.
Although the existence of the G-spot may be controversial for some researchers, the idea that you can take control of your sex life is something we’ll never stop believing.
Everyone deserves earth-shattering orgasms, whether by yourself or with a partner, and exploring your own body so you can learn what works for you is an excellent place to start.
Sex is what you make it, so don’t put up with less than you deserve.
Portrait of Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg | The Edythe Griffinger Portal
Differential diagnostics of female "sexual" fluids: a narrative review | PubMed
The G-spot is the female prostate | American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology
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